How To Bounce Back From Things That Upset You
Feb 03, 2021
Ever have those days that are backwards, upside down, and inside out? 🙃
Anyone else have a rough day today? Ugh, I feel you sister. Happy days aren’t guarantees, that’s for sure.
Welcome to the unpredictable nature of the world. We just don’t have control over anything outside of ourselves. I woke up feeling sad today from a really depressing dream and then experienced several morning hiccups that led to lots of frustration and stress. Yuck.
It got me thinking about how people will ask me, “How are you so positive all the time?” And I’ll tell you what I tell them. I’m not! It’s impossible to be. Negative feelings come and go, they are temporary yes, but they have impact. They really do have the potential to derail our day.
You are tired, you don’t feel like it, you don’t know how. I get it - honestly, I do. I struggle with the same thoughts. They enter my mind without permission and try to take up space. Sometimes they actually win. But when I observe them and notice that they are there, I find myself in a position of knowing that I still have the CHOICE whether or not to listen to them. I keep my power. I stay in my lane. I move towards my goals. It’s all in the choice. We can listen to our excuses or we can do it anyway.
So I wanted to share with you what I did to brighten my mood in case it helps you too!
💜 I shared. I shared with a couple of people how I was feeling, and it felt really nice to vent. Why? Because it reminds you that you’re not alone, you are loved and cared for, and everything you’re thinking and feeling is normal. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💜 I accommodated. I pulled into Starbucks to grab myself a really soothing tea. I drank my peach tranquility 🥰 and felt soothed and nurtured by this simple act. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💜 I honored. When I arrived at my office I sat with my eyes closed and let my feelings wash over me. I honored them as they were, knowing they couldn’t harm me. They’re just feelings. They’re like waves in the ocean, coming and going. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💜 I shifted. I then took a couple of minutes to ask myself two important questions to prepare me for the day ahead: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💕 What do I NEED today?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 💕 How do I want to show up today?
Know that if you’re having a rough day you’re never alone. We all have them. No one is perfect. No one is happy all the time. Share your feelings, accommodate and honor them, and if you’re up for it shift your mindset to support you as your best self today.
Remember that you have enough control to create happiness in your life despite the tornado around you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Trust me, I know. You can also try these on for size:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👏🏻 Give yourself GRACE and COMPASSION. You are human and your feelings are normal and necessary. Cut yourself some slack, girl.
👏🏻 HONOR your feelings. Embrace these feelings, they exist for a reason. Let yourself honor their existence and the message they’re sending you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👏🏻 Choose CURIOSITY over JUDGMENT. Choose to explore your feelings from a place of curiosity, what are these feelings, where they come from, what this experience reminds you of, and how might you like to respond to them? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👏🏻 RESPOND VS REACT. Instead of letting autopilot take the wheel and create a reaction in you, create space between stimulus and response and choose to RESPOND in a healthy, appropriate way. Write down three possible ways you could respond to this situation that aligns with your values. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Feelings are not enemies, they don’t need to be scary. They can be welcomed, embraced, and honored without derailing your entire day. ❤️