How To Beat Self-doubt And Stop Selling Yourself Short
Feb 10, 2021When you look in the mirror what do you see? Do you find yourself caught up in all of your flaws, imperfections, mistakes, failures? Do you beat yourself up and feed that inner critic without thinking? I know you do, even I do sometimes!
Guys, let’s get real. Until we change the story we tell ourselves about who we are and who we’re meant to be, we won’t live the life we desire. Bottom line.
For so many years I had the belief that I was bad. Like rotten egg bad. And every time I experienced something negative in my life that nerve would be nicked. My brain would automatically dish out the thought “See? You’re bad.” Horrible, right? But that’s not far off from what you all tell yourselves. And I’ve heard it all. From:
👎🏻 I’m not good enough.
👎🏻 I’m unloveable.
👎🏻 Something is wrong with me.
👎🏻 I’m a failure.
👎🏻 I’m worthless.
I’ve heard it all. And I’ll tell you my secret. It’s the ONE thing that will stop these beliefs in their tracks. The secret?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🙌🏻 Change your STORY. You have to stop feeding the belief that you’re a failure and start feeding the belief that you are good, whole, successful, and ENOUGH. And I can hear you now....but Wendy, how?? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💕 By interpreting your life through a different lens. The lens you WANT to see yourself and the rest of the world through. How do you want to feel about yourself? Start there. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But that’s only half of the equation. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💕 Change your behaviors. Stop engaging in the behaviors that stall your progress, sabotage you, and convince you that your negative thinking is the truth. Start living your life BY DESIGN.
Aren’t you tired of giving up on yourself? Of quitting on yourself? So often we want to show up for ourselves but we sabotage. We say NO to ourselves and our dreams because it feels hard, or even impossible. Our brain tells us we can’t, or we won’t, so we don’t.
Instead of planning our detours and the strategic ways we will work around obstacles, we throw in the towel. And that sucks. We start to doubt ourselves and our abilities, we feel sad or depressed, and we stay STUCK.
The truth is that success isn’t seamless. And it’s not easy. It IS possible and it IS worth it.
So until you begin to change your story and say YES to yourself, your needs will stay the same but you’ll never get them met. 😢
It takes a lot of intention and awareness in order for us to change our patterns (and some grit of course). And it won’t feel easy. But I invite you to consider this the next time you look in the mirror: what do you need to hear? What do want to hear? How do you want to feel about yourself? What wins can you celebrate? You are an incredible human, let that be clear in the way you talk to yourself.
If you focus on changing the language you use to describe yourself, where you are going, and all that you are capable of, you will see that directly reflected in your progress. Be kind and positive to yourself if you want to succeed at becoming your BEST self!
We have this incredible opportunity in front of us. A year of possibility. Who do you want to be? What do you want to let go of? What do YOU need to be happy? Tell me, I want to know what you are seeking. And I want to teach you exactly how to get there.
My life mission is to empower women to change their story. Just imagine what’s possible????? 😍🥰💕❤️